I can't think of a good way to introduce this post. (What do you mean, I'm a writer, I should be more creative? Don't look at me like that.) So basically, here you go, with only this craptastic introductory paragraph to segue you into my topic.
(I can hear them coming for my college degree now...)
I think it's a bigger waste of time trying to talk yourself out of self-pity than it is to just let yourself wallow in it for a little while. This might not work for everyone--some people just keep wallowing. But if you're like me, you just need an hour to not feel guilty about feeling BAD, and then it's way easier (not easy, but easiER) to snap out of.
Seriously, put on the Damien Rice CD or watch Grey's Anatomy reruns for a couple hours. Wallow in the "MY LIFE SUCKS" feeling. Don't expect anything of yourself, don't feel guilty that other people have it worse than you, don't beat yourself up for being sad for a stupid (or no) reason. Don't listen to people who tell you to suck it up, find the silver lining, be happy, blah blah blah whatever.
And then later you can make lemonade or find the silver lining or squirt lemon juice into someone's eye.
I think it's pretty counterproductive to try to get over emotions we haven't actually EXPERIENCED fully.
You can spend DAYS trying to convince yourself not wallow, and end up in this awful spiral of guilt because you can't talk yourself out of feeling bad. Versus a couple hours of FML fun.
I'm not saying do this every time you stub your toe. (Though, seriously...ow.) But it's ok every so often to just be down in the dumps for no reason, or for some ridiculous reason. If you need permission from some random stranger on the internet, I'm giving it to you. But mostly I'm saying give it to yourself.
Doing your taxes definitely constitutes a good reason.